Throughout our lives, we experience different types of relationships. Each type of relationship can be healthy or unhealthy. Some relationships are a mix of both.
|Feeling a special connection with a person. May or may not include sex.
|Engaging in sexual activity with someone.
|Someone you trust, respect, and care about.
|A (foster) mother, father, brothers, sisters, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, guardian, other extended family.
|Teacher, counsellor, babysitter, coach, police, boss, health care worker, parent or other older family member, religious leader, etc. Someone you depend on; someone who has some power over you.
Characteristics of Healthy Relationships:
|Respect is the basis of all relationships. Respect is about treating people well and showing them they are important and valued for who they are.
|A person is confident the other person is reliable and truthful.
|Each person can admit when they are wrong and they expect the other person to do the same. Each person can share what they think, and expect the other person to not make fun of them.
|Each person is there for the other person, in good times and in bad times.
|The two people share in deciding what to do and who to spend time with. One person does not make all the decisions.
|Each person has their own life—friends, family, hobbies—separate from the other person. Each person feels comfortable doing things without the other person, including new and old activities, and other relationships.
|You can talk openly with the other person about anything and everything, and know they do not judge you. You feel the other person hears what you say and takes it seriously.
|You like being around the other person, you have fun together.
|You are comfortable around the other person; you know they will not hurt you.
Characteristics of Unhealthy Relationships
|When someone resents you for spending time with other people.
|When someone wants to be with you all the time and does not let you have any personal space.
|When two people are constantly fighting.
|When someone doesn’t consider your feelings and doesn’t seem to care when you are upset.
|When someone intimidates and controls you to try to get you to do something that you do not want to do.
|When someone won’t take “NO” for an answer and keeps trying to get you get to do something.
|When someone makes you feel badly for saying “NO” or not agreeing to something.
In an unhealthy relationship, one person—the abuser—controls the other person through various forms of abuse.
|A person hits, pushes, punches, slaps, grabs, bites, scratches, strangles, kicks, and/ or uses weapons on the other person.
This takes many forms and can be very subtle. It is harder to see evidence of emotional abuse because a person has no bruises, cuts, broken bones, or scars.
A person makes sure the other person doesn’t have any direct access to money; especially not enough money to leave a relationship.
Facebook, Instagram, and texting make it easy to connect with friends and family. They also make it easy to use technology to abuse people. Someone invades the other person’s privacy—checks their phone and social media.
Sharing intimate photos with others is a crime if the photo involves a minor. It is also a crime if the sender does not have consent from the person in the photo.